Being an HSP is quite enough, from intuitive or psychic overclocking to visions into peoples’ Souls. The last thing I ever need is to make what you think about me my business. I will already have the basics involuntarily but the least I can do is learn and then share with other HSP’s or recovering Codependents for that matter – that it is not my business. Three businesses: Mine, yours, and God’s. The HSP or Extra-Intuitive may inadvertently dabble in realms other than ours or the Codependent may *know* due to enmeshment or boundary issues or the Alcoholic may “know” due to habitual guilt and self-loathing – but if I can help myself and you keep the eye on the prize which is knowing what OUR business is, we’ll be happy people irrespective of who thinks what about us. Read this article!
From the category archives:
Codependency
The next night, I’d checked her liquor supply. She had none left, I reasoned, so if she does not go to the liquor store tonight, I’ll be okay. She didn’t go to the liquor store or drink that night. Or the next night. Or the next night. or even the next night. I remember, still, as happy as I was, waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Do you or have you spent a large portion of your life insuring that people like you? Have you bent over backwards for people you may not even know, only to try to get them to like you? Do you or have you ever extensively worried whether someone likes you or not?
If you think someone [...]
How often I was at the whim of the world, constantly waiting for permission to take care of myself. Perceiving I was under constant scrutiny from the outside world, it would seem I always waited for the world to take care of me. I waited for someone to say, “Well eat something!” or “Take a [...]
Good afternoon friends! After several messages of friends online asking “How do I help an alcoholic friend stop drinking?” I knew, then, I needed to do something. Therefore, I am going to offer some suggestions. But before you take off with these suggestions, I am sure to have some Al-Anons or Codependents who’ve arrived at this [...]
I think we associate ‘No’ with negative as in negative feelings and negative consequences. I know I used to. As a child, being told ‘No” was usually accompanied by a look or a tone. As a result, I think I grew up thinking No was just ‘bad.’ As a further extension of this, I avoided [...]
“Controlling codependent bitch” is the term that would have someone visiting my “Quit Punishing Me” article this evening. Reading the article again, ever mindful of the search term used to reach it, I was reminded how insidious and damaging controlling behavior is.
Quit Punishing Me was an article I’d written in the middle of a confusing, [...]
I see the petitions for peace. I hear the pleas for an end to America’s somebody’s so-called “War on Terror.” I can’t help but think as I browse the internet, watch the news, read the opinions, and reflect on my own feelings, “Peace at all costs?”
Are people so hungry for peace amid turpitude that they [...]
This sounds funny, looking at what I have titled this. Sounds so contrary to everything I have been taught and here I am. In public. Out loud. Saying it. I have an online friend who even has her blog entitled “It’s All About Me!” and though it sounds like she’s being cutesy by calling it [...]
“So I guess you’ll punish me.” or “Why are you punishing me?” or “Will you punish me?” or “You always punish me.” or “Why are you torturing me?” or … These phrases may sound familiar.
Earlier this morning I was in conversation with a friend who had just realized she had been punishing her significant other [...]
What is codependency? Are you the controlller or the controllee? Do you rage externally or internally?
I was recently honored with a message from a woman who is involved with an HSP. [ Characteristics of the Highly Sensitive Person or The HSP & Relationships may prove helpful if you're confused with this term. ] Essentially she wanted to know “What about us?” And that provoked me into thought. She’s right. What about [...]
Somewhere in Melody Beattie’s Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps she makes it clear that when we grieve as we engage this process of recovery that we are not insane. There may be moments of extreme sadness, confusion, grief, anger, hurt, and mood swings you may not be able to identify. Please do not let [...]
