Three businesses: Mine, yours, and God’s. The HSP or Extra-Intuitive may inadvertently dabble in realms other than ours or the Codependent may *know* due to enmeshment or boundary issues or the Alcoholic may “know” due to habitual guilt and self-loathing – but if I can help myself and you keep the eye on the prize which is knowing what OUR business is, we’ll be happy people irrespective of who thinks what about us. Read this article!

The next night, I’d checked her liquor supply. She had none left, I reasoned, so if she does not go to the liquor store tonight, I’ll be okay. She didn’t go to the liquor store or drink that night. Or the next night. Or the next night. or even the next night. I remember, still, as happy as I was, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Do you or have you spent a large portion of your life insuring that people like you? Have you bent over backwards for people you may not even …

For Highly Sensitive People, the insensitive world can feel quite overwhelming and emotionally charged at times. Trying to change the world to suit us seems a little ridiculous and equally ridiculous is to try to change ourselves to be okay with the “insensitivity.” But, if we could change our perceptions, then we would be more comfortable in this world.

How often I was at the whim of the world, constantly waiting for permission to take care of myself. Perceiving I was under constant scrutiny from the outside …

Good afternoon friends! After several messages of friends online asking “How do I help an alcoholic friend stop drinking?” I knew, then, I needed to do something. Therefore, I …

I think we associate ‘No’ with negative as in negative feelings and negative consequences. I know I used to. As a child, being told ‘No” was usually accompanied …

“Controlling codependent bitch” is the term that would have someone visiting my “Quit Punishing Me” article this evening. Reading the article again, ever mindful of the search term …

I see the petitions for peace. I hear the pleas for an end to America’s somebody’s so-called “War on Terror.” I can’t help but think as I browse …

This sounds funny, looking at what I have titled this. Sounds so contrary to everything I have been taught and here I am. In public. Out loud. Saying …

“So I guess you’ll punish me.” or “Why are you punishing me?” or “Will you punish me?” or “You always punish me.” or “Why are you torturing me?” …

What is codependency? Are you the controlller or the controllee? Do you rage externally or internally?

I was recently honored with a message from a woman who is involved with an HSP. [ Characteristics of the Highly Sensitive Person or The HSP & Relationships may …

Somewhere in Melody Beattie’s Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps she makes it clear that when we grieve as we engage this process of recovery that we are …